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How Do You Know When You Are Ready To Move On From Your Faith Crisis?

 

There comes a time in everyone's faith crisis where you feel like you are ready to move on. You have been through so many different stages of this process and you are ready to move forward. But, what does moving on really look like?

It is so strange because you can't really plan for a faith crisis, it just happens. It moves in and takes over for awhile. It leaves you free falling. You become obsessed. You read volumes of material. You are all in in trying to figure out what the hell just happened. Your emotions are all over the place, shock, sadness, anger.

You eventually get to the point where you are ready to move on and come what may, you are going to figure out how to do this.

Then you look around and see your family and friends and you remember this is not just you. Or is it?

Is it possible to move on, even if those around you are not up to speed with all that you have been through?

Yes, yes it is.

One of my favorite songs on this topic is from the late Tom Petty. This song is so perfect. Listen to it on repeat. It. Is. So. Good.

I have said time and time again, that leaving ones faith is not for the faint of heart. It is quite the process. But, you have done hard things before and you will make it through this.

It is time to move on my dear. If you need a guide, I am your girl. I have tools!

Amy

amyloganlife@gmail.com

Trusting Yourself After A Faith Crisis

One of the things I talk about with my clients after their Faith Crisis, is learning to trust yourself again.

Thoughts about feeling betrayed and how did this happen, are pretty common.

You may be a little gun shine because you feel like you truly trusted and believed so strongly the church/religion/gospel you have been living, and now it is not.

So how will you know what is true or false?

But, guess what?! This is great news. You know why?

The blinders are off. What you once believed with all your heart, is no longer true. Now everything else you approach, you will look at with your eyes wide open. 

Right?! {{{ The answer better be yes my dear. }}}

Don't worry about not trusting yourself.

Be excited AND curious AND trust yourself. These feelings and emotions will keep you in check.

So, go forth and explore! 

When you can shift the need to know all the answers to not feeling like you have to know anything, life literally takes on a whole new experience.

Enjoy this process and know, you can trust yourself more than ever before. It really can be that simple.

Trusting yourself is just a thought anyway right? 

Choose to trust yourself. It is so much more fun than living in confusion. Truth is, you may mess up from time to time. Life is messy. That just means you are doing it right.

I love this thought work stuff!!! I am happy to walk it with you. Email me at anytime. amyloganlife@gmail.com

You got this!

Amy 

How Can You (re)Frame Your Faith Crisis Story?

Faith Crisis Life Coach

So many times we create a loop in our minds about experiences that happen in our lives.

I want you to, for example, reframe your Faith Crisis story.

Look at it from an outsiders perspective. List the players, events and complete experience for someone who has never heard of your particular religion.

What words, feelings, and emotions could you explore that put this process, experience in a different light.

I really want you to try this. (no, for real, get out a pen and piece of paper and get to work!)

Sometimes we get so focused on a certain angle of our very own story that we can't see the forest through the trees.

This exercise will start to help you see your story from a different perspective.

This is one way to begin unsticking yourself.

So many people come to me wanting advice on how to get unstuck. This is a way to begin.

Just look at it differently. Start there and see how it goes?

ReFrame it, starting now. GO!

Amy xoxo        

amyloganlife@gmail.com

 

Seeking understanding after your Faith Crisis?

Are you wanting to be understood with all that you have just experienced with your faith crisis?  Do you want your family and friends to get what you have just been through?

I spent years in the this space. Wanting my friends and family to really, really, understand the pain I experienced because of my faith crisis.

If everyone could just see life from my point of view, things would be so much easier. If only, right?

That is not how this works.

You are the only one who has to understand what you have been through.

If you have people in your life that try to understand, who are compassionate and empathetic, than that is a bonus. Not everyone gets that. And even if they do, it doesn't not always work the way you want it to.

But, the good news is that none of that has to happen for you to get to a place of total acceptance and peace about your decision of leaving your faith.

Total acceptance is in your brain.

When you stay in the place of frustration because you feel you are not being understood, you create more suffering for yourself.

Suffering is optional.

It is that simple.

It doesn't feel that simple when you are going through your own pain from the loss of something like your faith. But, it is true.

Once you learn to manage your mind around all of the swirling thoughts you keep looping in your head because...

  • if only they could see it my way
  • if only they could read what I have read to understand
  • if only they could stop bearing their testimony
  • if only they could accept me as this new person
  • if only....

Do you see a pattern? Are you guilty of this type of thinking?

Most of us are.

But, freedom comes from the place of you understanding yourself, managing your mind (thoughts) about how you are thinking and feeling about wanting to be understood.

We read all the time to pay no mind to what others think of us. But is is easier said than done. Right?

I think that is because we are human. But also we have created a habit for ourselves to worry about what other people are thinking about us. This is kind of funny, because we are affected about what other people may or may not be thinking about us. Think of the power we give away when we do this. 

So, work on your own thoughts about your own situation. 

I have mentioned many times, that my whole philosophy around life coaching is based in our thoughts. I guide you through your brain and its patterns. It is a fascinating process. 

Come work with me. I always have a spot for you.

Amy xo

amyloganlife@gmail.com

Faith Crisis ~ Are you open to the possibility?

Faith Crisis Life Coach

Are you open to the idea that your faith crisis is the best thing that has ever happened to you?

If someone would have asked me this question 12 years ago, I would have thought they were nuts.

I would have laughed in their face (through my tears of course.)

I could not see the forest through the trees at that time in my life.

Now, hindsight, I know this to be true.

It is so strange how something so life shattering could actually be something I am so thankful for. Truly.

If you are new to this paradigm shift, welcome to the other side. You made it. If you feel you are hanging by a thread, that is temporary, and you will be okay.

Welcome to your awakening. And when I say awakening, I truly mean that if you have walked through this door, you will never look at life the same way again.

What I love about it is you have lived through a new way to look at life.

This means you are open to diving into your brain a little more to see how things really work, right?

Well, if you are anything like me, you are.

My whole life coaching philosophy is built on this very premise.

Looking at how the thoughts running through your brain (and you have about 50,000-60,000 thoughts a day) effect your entire life, geeks me out! In a really good way.

Anxiety, stress, worry, confusion, overwhelm are just a few areas of your life that can feel amplified when you experience a faith crisis.

Learning to manage your mind, will help with all of these types of side effects.

Our brains are a miracle that you have total control over, once you learn the process.

When you are ready, let's do this life coaching thing.

I joke around with my friends and family, by saying "I can coach you through that."

It is funny AND true, but, the only caveat is, when YOU are ready.

Have a beautiful Friday!

Amy 

message me amyloganlife@gmail.com

Faith Crisis Life Coach ~ You left, now what? Finding your voice after mormonism.

I think one of the most exciting parts of leaving religion, in my case mormonism, is finding your new voice.

What do you think now?

How do you want to show up in the world with your new world view?

How do you want to be?

Do you find yourself biting your tongue?

Are you okay with that?

What does your "new authentic self" even mean?

I seriously love helping guide my life coaching clients through this process. It is the most liberating thing I have to offer my people.

I want you to envision this.

You have left your faith. You are feeling really good about the decision to leave. Life is moving along just fine, but you know you are still, shying away from speaking out fully, or not even sure what that looks like.

Should you speak out?

How do you share your new thoughts and world view without fear of constantly being put down or brushed off?

Maybe you keep your mouth shut around family and friends because you are scared of judgement or fear of offending some one..

Good news. You can't offend anyone. It is their choice to be offended. (Send the offended party my way and I can coach them through that!) lol, no seriously!

Inevitably, you want to show up as your new self, with no fear of excessive judgment, right?

Well, guess what? You will be judged. You may loose friends. You may even make someone mad. 

The good news is that is all okay! Once you realize that that will happen, you can deal with it. Not everyone is going to leave and avoid you. Just those who were not really your friends anyway, right?

Now, I am not saying to go around trying to piss people off or even disrupt the flow of family and friends living their religion. They get to live their religion. That is their decision. But, showing up as your new self is totally okay. It can even be done with love and kindness. 

This is a beautiful process.

No more hiding the coffee maker and the wine. No more hiding your new world view. No more hiding that fact that you are not wearing garments. No more hiding that you no longer go to church. No more feeling scared to say you are agnostic or even atheist, if that is the path you have chosen. No more hiding period.

{{{{{ I could list a gazillion other things that you do not need to hide. But I think you get the point. }}}}}

My biggest point is that your new voice matters. It matters to you and to your children and even friends and family.

I have been amazed at the people who have messaged me, once I started speaking with my new voice, thoughts and opinions. People started to confide in my that they have been feeling the same way and felt/feel scared and not sure how to move forward.

Well, that is where I come in. I LOVE helping others navigate their way through this strange new world you are finding yourself in.

I would love to guide YOU through this process. I have a huge beautiful tool bag, full of ways to navigate this path.

It is so possible to step into your beautiful authentic self with confidence.

You got this.

Watching you step into your new self is one of the most rewarding things I have ever been a part of.

So much love to you my dear!

Amy xo ~ amyloganlife@gmail.com

What is a Faith Crisis? Thoughts from a former Mormon's perspective.

As many of you know, my faith crisis began in 2006. I walked through this stage of my mormon faith crisis many moons ago. The paradigm shift one goes through when you experience a faith crisis is swift and leaves you feeling like you are free falling for a while.

"Someone asked me the other day, “what is a faith crisis?” That question took me right back to some of my darkest days. My own personal, emotional, painful, beautiful awakening.

The time when I wanted the earth to swallow me whole. The time when I didn’t want to get out of bed. The time of life when everything seemed scary and I didn’t know what to do. A time when the rug was pulled out from under me and I felt lost in a blur of scary emotions.

It was 2006 and I had finally given myself permission to start following my inner voice. The one I had been pushing down for years. The one I wanted to ignore, because intuitively, I knew that once I opened that door, life would never be the same again.

It was true. But I am so proud of myself. Thankful for the fall. It is strange to look at it like that, but, I made it through. It is hard to explain a complete paradigm shift and what that really feels like. All of the above and more.

A faith crisis, when everything you ever believed vanishes in an instant. Everything. I

t messes things up for a while. I couldn’t tell up from down. Free falling is what I call it now. But then, one day, after a lot of pain, the whole world comes into a beautiful more colorful view.

More possibility. Less guilt and shame. More authenticity. More love. More joy. More freedom. More everything. There is no set time for any of this to happen. It just happens.

One day you wake up and you’ve made it through the hardest part. There may be days that still bite you in the ass, but even those days feel different now. Life is beautiful.

I’m not even sure this answers the question properly, but it is a random flow of feelings and thoughts at this moment. I wouldn’t trade my story for anything, as hard as all the fallout was. I’m still standing, with no shame anymore. My world is beautiful, with all the parts above.

Now, I get to help others navigate this beautiful messy road. This is my why. You are never alone. I help you create soft landings for when your world is falling apart.

Have you had a faith crisis? I highly recommend it."

Oodles of love to you going through your own faith crisis. You never have to be alone during this process.

Amy 

amyloganlife@gmail.com

Middle of a Mormon Faith Crisis? Now what?

Mormon Faith Crisis ~ Now What?

You have found yourself in the middle of a Mormon Faith Crisis. A place that you never even knew could happen to you.

You are sitting there on your couch, or bed, or kitchen table, you are looking around your house that used to feel perfect and right (for the most part). You just finished a big cry and now you are just sitting there looking and not quite sure what the future holds. You feel empty and void of all the emotions that just spilled out of you.

The house you are still staring at, blankly, represents all that you knew. All that you wanted for you family. All that you planned for. And now, you know that life is not going to be the same again.

There are conversations that have to happen.

There are feelings that have to be felt.

There are relationships that may change.

There are stories that now have different endings.

What are you going to do?

{{{Breathe.}}

Know that you will make it through.

You will stand on solid footing again, even if it may look completely different than it does in this moment.

How do I know this? Because I have been there. I have stared with new eyes, at everything I had created for my life and felt empty and scared.

Have things changed? 

Yes. 

Life is different than it used to be.

I really do believe that the experience of a Faith Crisis is wonderful and perfect, in all of it's imperfections.

Cry it out when you need to. Suck it up when you have to.

Get through it.

You will experience a wide variety of emotions.

Remember that emotions are just feelings and feelings will not kill you.

Let the feelings come and go, ebb and flow.

And then, when you are ready to no longer be in limbo. When you are ready to look at life as it falls around you. When you are ready to step into your new way of being, but you need a little help, a little nudge. Message me.

You will get through this and I am here to help.

You are just becoming who you were meant to be. It is perfectly unfolding.

Let it be messy for a time. It is all part of the rebuilding.

You are loved.

Amy xoxo

amyloganlife@gmail.com

Faith Crisis Life Coach ~ Ways to Work With Me ~ Ex Mormon
Okay my dear, I know you feel like your whole world just came crashing down on you. It feels heavy, scary, lonely.

I get it. 

I have been there, right where you are. Going through a Faith Crisis is one of the most confusing, painful experiences you have ever been through.

Feeling like you are the crazy one. Feeling like everyone is looking at you like you have lost your mind. Feeling scared to speak your mind. Feeling like you should just keep quiet to keep the peace.

You probably feel like you should hold it all in and just go through the motions of life, like it was before. Just pretend.

I did that for a long time too.

But you are probably tired of living that way. Tired of holding your tongue. Feeling like the new you is getting lost in the shuffle?

I am here to guide you through this process. 

I KNOW IT IS SCARY.

You are no longer the person you were. So how do you show up in the world now?

You can live in fear of the new you, or you can go find her! 

I have a HUGE tool box, filled with all sorts of ways to help you, right now, in this scary place you have found yourself.


My dear, you will be okay. You will survive this. I promise.

Please do not let yourself get lost in this shuffle. You are needed. Your new voice is needed in the lives of your children, your spouse, your friends.

It is time to become the new you. It is totally okay to emerge as a new person.

Because, if you have been walking this awakening of yours for any amount of time, you know you cannot go back to the old way of being.

I have seen beautiful changes happen in the lives of my clients. I am always so honored to be a part of the process. I know it takes courage to let someone in. 
I would love to work with you. I am waiting. Just reach out.

You are loved,

Amy
Amy Logan ~ Getting Uncomfortable ~ Faith Crisis Life Coach

Don't you hate feeling uncomfortable? Ugg, so do I!

This weeks video blog, vlog, is all about this very topic.

I want you to realize something, when you have a 

  • Goal
  • Desire
  • Dream
  • Exit plan
  • Education plan
  • etc.

part of attaining said dream/plan, will most likely involve feelings you do not want to feel, you will find all the ways and reasons why you should not achieve it.

It is just what our brain does. We are wired that way.

But listen, all that you want in life, is on the other side of feeling uncomfortable.

The secret lies, in feeling uncomfortable, and doing "it" anyway.

That is it. 

Super simple, right? No, but the good news is, you are also wired to do hard things.

And the funny part is, the feeling you are putting off, is most likely the feeling you are feeling ANYWAY!!!

So, get busy. You got this!

~Amy

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