Leaving high demand religion is not for the faint of heart and if you found me, you know this to be true! Whether you found me via my podcast, Exmormonology, or you follow me on social media, I am so happy you are here.
I am a life coach that helps you transition out of the high demand religion you found yourself in. For many of us, we were born into our religion, we didn’t get to make the decision. Our brains are hard wired to think a certain way. After 18 years of leaving Mormonism, my brain still gets stuck in past belief patterns, the more tricky ones ie. the residual effects of patriarchy, being a people pleaser and being a “good girl.” Old patterns die hard! These things are still true for you if you were a convert. HDR teaching tactics are layered throughout the whole religious experience.
I am here to help you peel back the layers so you can create new ways of thinking and move forward without so much guilt and shame in your life. The church (whatever one you left) has used cult tactics to keep you in, FEAR being the biggest one. When fear is etched into your subconscious, even making regular life decisions can feel like a huge burden. Let’s change that.
You are a grown ass adult! However growing up in high demand religion leaves you feeling like a child. That was the plan all along my friend!
As you have quickly found out, leaving HDR creates an overwhelming huge mountain for you to climb. Each and every paradigm you have ever had has been turned upside down and needs a little (or if you are like me a lot) rebuilding.
This is where I come in. Life coaching is a healing modality that helps you move forward in life, versus therapy that looks backwards to find your pain points. You are not your past, do not let your past define you. I have specific tools that help you do this.
Feeling alone?
I imagine you have a community of people, friends and family around you, however, they most likely do not understand what it is like to go through a faith crisis and ALL THAT COMES WITH IT.
We spend a lot of time feeling misunderstood and alone. You may find yourself saying:
“Why does my family not understand me?”
“My spouse thinks I have lost my mind.”
“I can’t show my real feelings around the people I love the most, because they will tell me I should just come back to church and things will be better.”
We often seek comfort from the very people and organization (aka The Church) you are pulling away from. You are probably realizing that this does not work. It really only leaves you feeling more alone and confused. How could the church and/or your loved ones really understand what you are going through? The have not experienced what you have.
No matter if you are thinking about leaving the church, have just left or left 10 plus years ago, there are many layers to the process of deconstruction.
I help you sort it all out.
I have been right where you are. I really truly know what it feels like. I had to navigate this strange and completely unexpected road you find yourself on, all alone.
I want you to know that it is 100% possible to strengthen the relationships you have in your life EVEN IF your friends and family stay in the church. However, I want you to build the relationship you have with YOURSELF first.
Do your member friends and family say:
well, you should have stayed in the church and you would not be feeling this way
anger and contention is of the devil and you seem so angry
you just wanted to sin
you were not doing it right
you never really believed
you will be back (totally undermining your ability to think for yourself.
you got offended
you couldn’t handle it
you just misunderstood the history/teachings
I have personally heard each and everyone of this reasons for leaving. The truth of the matter is you and I, wanted the church to be true. I mean, you dedicated your whole life to it.
Taking Your Power Back!
During our two months together I will help you trust yourself AND take your power back. During our 2 months together, you will learn exactly how to do this. You will learn to ditch the guilt, let go of the worry, lessen your anxiety and for maybe the first time in your life, trust yourself.
Coaching is not about hourly sessions, it is the work you commit to do during our time together, to develop your own self coaching practice, so you will know how to do this work when our time together ends. The tools and modalities I teach you will help you in ALL areas of your life.
Coaching is an investment, that is for sure. It is an investment in yourself and in your future.
Imagine what we can accomplish during our two months together. When was the last time you did something truly just for yourself?
With this coaching package, I am offering two months/8 sessions done through Zoom, a beautiful coaching workbook, voxer messages ~an app where you can leave me a voice message and we can do light coaching between our sessions, and/or email coaching between sessions. $1475.
Yes, I am offering our time together in the form of sessions, but this is so much more than that. Coaching is about clearing the clutter from your old ways of thinking and believing so you can create what you would rather think and believe about your life.
