In this second part of The In Between, we go deeper into the space between where you have been and where you are going, the place that feels messy, uncertain and full of doubt. This is where decisions are made, boundaries are set and enforced and uncomfortable feelings rise up asking to be felt.

Some call it limbo, but I believe it is more than that, it is a fertile pause, the ground where healing takes root and trust begins to grow. In this episode, we will talk about how to sit with the muck, allow yourself to feel and still hold space for the life that is waiting for you on the other side.

If you are navigating your own In Between, this conversation will remind you that you are not stuck you are just in The In Between.

I have been captivated by the concept of The In Between, that mysterious space between enduring your pain and trauma and fully moving forward. It is a place where it is easy to get stuck in familiar patterns of suffering, because they have become uncomfortably comfortable. Pain can feel like an old snugle blanket you have held onto for years and letting go feels strange, even a little like losing yourself. 

But The In Between is also where transformation happens. It is where you begin to truly integrate all the tools you have learned along the way: setting boundaries, speaking up for yourself, saying no and meaning it, being gentle with yourself and leaning fully into your feelings. 

It can feel scary to step into this space, but it is also so magical. It is here, in the tension between what was and what can be, that you learn to trust yourself and your healing.

If you find yourself clinging to your pain, don't worry, it is actually a good sign if you can see that you do that. 

As you reflect on your own journey, tune into this meditation and let your body relax and connect with your higher self. You have to slow down the noise of life to see if you are stuck in your old ways. They are familiar to you, so it makes sense that you cling. Even uncomfortable feels comfortable sometimes.

It can feel very scary to set down this piece of you, the old you, the one that was so in her pain that she could see no way out, to the you that can see a way out, but your identity and stories and way of being, keep you locked into the only way of being you know.

This in between is such a scary place to be. However, if you lean into trusting yourself, a whole new world will open up for you.

I have been sitting with a lot of emotions, like many of you, I am sure. The state of the world right now is heavy, overwhelming and a bit surreal. Before we dive into today’s topic, I wanted to share some thoughts on that, because pretending everything is “normal” just doesn’t feel right.

Times are tough right now and this tells me that the work I do in the world is important. The work I do, the tools and my coaching, combine to help you not get pulled under by the weight of everything happening in the USA and the world right now. 

Viktor Frankl was an Austrian neurologist, psychologist, philosopher and Holocaust survivor. I can't help but think of his words right now, as what we are experiencing feels similar. Viktor taught us that no one can take away the way we think and our attitude about our life. When I think of the unimaginable horror that he lived through, and millions of others, his words give me hope and a reminder to make sure we tend to your mind and heart. 

And THIS is the reason I will continue doing my work, even though times feel very heavy.

And then, once we have grounded in that reality, I want to take us somewhere deeper, into the heart of self confidence. Not the kind that is all surface level pep talk, but the real kind. The kind that grows quietly from trusting yourself and having your own back, no matter what is happening outside of you.

I also want to introduce you to, or remind you, of one of my favorite coaching tools. I am going to walk you through my thought model, a tool to help you see how your thoughts create your life. I know it is much more complicated than that, but, let’s start there.

I can and will help you learn to manage your mind and heart, Wildflower. This is what I do. I would love to work with you and help you through these times. 

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July is The Summer of You and we are starting with a new guided meditation to help you gently root into self trust and build a grounded, long lasting self confidence.

This 8 minute meditation is your reminder that confidence doesn’t come from perfection or performance, it comes from the quiet belief that you can handle whatever comes your way. That you are enough, as you are and you already carry the strength you are looking for. Let this be a soft beginning to your July. Let this be the day you trust your self confidence.

Take a breath. Press play. Return to your own steady ground.

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The space between self doubt and self trust can be a very hard place to be.

In this final episode of this trusting yourself series, we are diving into the emotional habits that keep you stuck and how to step into the role of observer so you can change them.

Do you know how you habitually respond to stress? Trauma? Most of us don’t. And when we are unaware, we keep reacting the same way, over and over. This is the place of feeling stuck. It can be a difficult place to live. Limbo is never fun.

Today we talk about recognizing your default emotional responses, getting comfortable feeling hard emotions, without drowning in them, the difference between processing and indulging 

And how to navigate the in between space, that tender place where you are not quite trusting yourself yet, but you are no longer ignoring your truth either.

This is about building emotional awareness so you can choose differently and trust yourself. More deeply, one moment at a time.

Developing the ability to trust yourself is a skill, and like any skill, it gets stronger with practice. 

 This week on The Green Shoe Society, we are talking about why self trust can feel so hard (especially if you have spent years or decades second guessing yourself) and how to start building your trust muscle today. It doesn’t have to be complicated or heavy.

Let’s break it down together so you can feel more confident making choices that feel right for you.

Bonus ~ I’ve created a special Spotify playlist to go along with this episode, a little musical boost fo your own trust journey. 

Ready to dive deeper into this work? Come work with me.

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As you move through your healing, connecting with your body isn’t just helpful, it is essential. So often, we stay in our heads, trying to think our way to peace. However, true healing happens when you learn to feel your way there.

Each month, I will be exploring a new theme, and once a month, I will guide you through a meditation to anchor that theme into your body and your nervous system.

So, Wildflower, find a soft place. Somewhere you can be alone. Sit up. Be still. Let’s reconnect with your body, the one that has been waiting for you to come home.

Think of your amazing brain as a beautiful garden labyrinth. There are moments when you wander through it, discovering new paths and ideas, feeling free and alive. But then, sometimes, you find yourself stuck in a corner, feeling lost, overwhelmed, or tangles in thoughts the seem to loop without end.

In this episode, we will explore how it happens when your mind feels like it is trapped in a maze of doubt or worry or confusion. We will talk about common ways we get stuck, whether it is rumination, people pleasing, or just the weight of trying to figure everything out at once. But most importantly I will share with you how you can navigate your way out of the labyrinth in healthy ways.

You don’t have to stay stuck. Let’s explore some practical tools for getting  out of the labyrinth and back to creating a life you love.

So many of us struggle to truly listen to our bodies. Over time, we get busy, distracted and caught up in the demands of everyday life. We stop paying attention to the subtle cues our bodies send us and before we know it, we have built a habit of ignoring them. We often push through exhaustion, dismiss discomfort and silence our needs, believing that we do not have time or that we should just power through.

When we do this for long enough, we begin to lose the connection we actually crave with our body. We become disconnected from ourselves in ways that can be hard to notice until we really need our bodies. Then, it feels like we have forgotten how to communicate with our amazing bodies that carry us through life.

Reconnecting with your body requires more than just noticing aches and pains. It is about learning to tune in with compassion and curiosity, to honor what your body is telling you, so you can begin to respond with care, for your body. It is a process of unlearning the patterns of disconnection and relearning how to show up for yourself in ways that prioritize listening and tuning into what your body needs from you. Nurturing.

Small steps pave the way here. Let’s start with something very simple.

We are moving forward. Onward. Beyond what it means to leave high demand religion. There is so much more to life than what we’ve been taught or what we’ve experienced in the past. There are places to see, people to meet, and dreams to chase.

But here’s the thing: healing doesn’t have to be the end goal. It’s a part of the journey, yes, but living, truly living, is what comes next. You’ve done the hard work of healing, of processing and shedding the layers of who you were told to be. Now, it’s time to step into who you really are.

This space is all about showing up for your life, imperfect and free. It’s about embracing the mess, the beauty, and the excitement of becoming, while continuing to heal and grow. It’s about creating the life you’ve been dreaming of for decades, without waiting for some magical moment when everything is "fixed."

Because guess what? You’re already whole.

You don’t have to wait for permission anymore. You don’t have to wait for someone to tell you you’re enough, because you are enough, right now. This journey is about living boldly, creating with purpose, and trusting yourself every step of the way.

So, Wildflower, let’s stop waiting for the perfect time to start living and dive in, imperfect, messy, and full of potential. There’s a whole world out there, and it’s ready for you to show up, as you are, and begin living the life you’ve always deserved.

Have you spent years buying self help books, listening to podcasts, and trying to improve and heal yourself? Yeah, me too. This week I want to talk about how your desire to improve and heal your pains and trauma is so valid! No one ever taught us how to "figure it out."  If you are listening to this podcast, you are most likely along your own personal healing journey. I want you to look at your healing journey as a quest to find your personal healing recipe. You are looking for the equation that works for you. Your recipe is different from my recipe. Yet, when all the stars align for you, you will find it. Keep searching. Keep seeking to understand yourself. The self help industry has a lot to wade through, but keep trusting yourself to find what you are looking for. Trust this process you find yourself on.

You have heard the term people pleasing, but have you heard the phrase dishonest harmony?

I want to share with you how those two words have changed my life and I believe they can change your life too.

Dishonest harmony is in the family of people pleasing, yet somehow way more powerful.

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Exmormonology lives on. Let's talk about it.

Also, Wildflower Weekend is 6 weeks away and I want you to join us. Sharing words from previous Wildflowers who attended last years Wildflower Weekend and the exact reason why you should carve out time in your life so you can experience what this healing retreat is all about.

Have you ever had a conversation with a stranger that ignited a sparked your brain? This happened this morning as Jim and I were having breakfast at a cafe in Provo Utah, we happened to have an amazing conversation with someone else who was doing what we were doing, eating. I share that conversation with you today. I invited James to join me today on the podcast because, well, he was there and we ended up having our own several hour conversation that was started by this happenstance meeting today with a stranger. We also discuss what we think is the exmormon echo chamber and the Barbie movie. I would love to hear your thoughts too.

Let's dive into religious scrupulosity and the Doug Fabrizio's Radio West Episode last week. Radio West is a Salt Lake City radio/podcast show. I was a bit triggered by a few things said by a guest on last weeks show and I want to talk about it, what it means and what it may mean to you. Working your way out of religious scrupulosity is possible. For many it stops the minute your religious beliefs dissipate, for others it may take years to unravel. Either way, I want to talk about what is happening for those of us who tend towards the scrupulous ways of religiously believing, even when we did not know it was a thing that was happening to and within us.

Wildflower, you have life to live and a brain to guide you to whatever it is you desire. On The Unorthodox Woman Podcast, I show you how to do just that, be your own brain guide.

While I know that the title of this episdoe may sound like I want to take on the whole affirmation community (if that is a thing), that is not the case. I do believe there is a missing step in the process of how we have been taught to do affirmations.

So, this week, I want to teach you the missing piece and speed up the process of getting you to what you want to believe about yourself. This way you get to where you want to go with your life a whole lot quicker! If nothing else, you get to the beliefs you want to believe in a more holistic, moving way, sustainable way.

You may be developing an obsession, or at minimum a fascination, with things like televangelists or Shiny Happy People.

Me too!

This week I dive into why this happens, what is happening in your brain when you watch and how this is an important part of your healing.

I also address the "script" used by most of the religious people in your life when you share the news that you are leaving your religion. It is the script that show that the indoctrination is working.

Let's talk! I have so much to share with you this week.

It was the summer of 1990, shortly after I was married, when my husband and I embarked on a journey to Flaming Gorge Lodge (in Utah) where we would work for the summer saving for college tuition. I worked as a waitress at the diner. It was a magical, beautiful summer up top a glorious mountain.

In this week's episode of The Unorthodox Woman, I recount a remarkable encounter with a charming lady who happened to be working alongside me for a few weeks. While I can't recall her exact age or even remember her name, she appeared to be in her late 60s or maybe even 70s. (as a 20-year-old, she seemed "old" to me at the time.) Little did I know that she would impart a lesson that has stayed with me for over 30 years. It involves coffee, a beverage I was not allowed to drink as an active believing member of my church. I have a feeling this story will help you with whatever you are struggling with, as it has helped me with my own struggles throughout my life.

Raise your hand if you have ever asked a friend a question that starts with

"Is it bad that I...?"

Yeah, me too. Yep, I see you! Hello, we have a lot in common. This question is rich for the corners of your conditioning to explore.

This week, let's dive into all things guilt and the psychology behind why it may be hard for you to make decisions. Your social, religious, spiritual and familial conditioning comes in hard and fast when the possibility of potential guilt or regret come into play.

I want to zoom out and get a big picture of what is going on in your brain when you ask a question like this. So, grab your earbuds and get your brain ready for some critical thinking!